“When are you going to have a baby?”
Shortly after getting married, I started being asked this at an alarming frequency – not by my friends and family but, almost exclusively, by people who weren’t particularly close to me (distant relatives, nosey neighbours, Barbara from accounts etc.)
It’s an incredibly invasive, potentially triggering and not to mention dull question to ask someone and I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling fed up of providing an answer to it. My husband and I have chosen to be very open about our fertility treatment but I haven’t extended this transparency to my colleagues and I’ve been completely taken aback at just how often this gets asked in casual, everyday small talk by the coffee machine.
SIDE NOTE: I recently read a great article in Harper’s Bazaar (click here to read) which makes this point far more eloquently but essentially: we need to improve our small talk content.
For anyone on the receiving end of that “when are you going to have a baby?” question, here are some less direct ways of telling them, quite frankly, to p*ss off…………